Parents with dementia, how dealing with that has gone.

[WinterDeere]

Long ago I read of someone who returned from Christmas vacation to find a running Model T indoors, on campus, where it had to have been disassembled to get it in there.

It may have been Caltech, as they described a roughly similar scenario in the article I had posted above... namely a Model T in the basement of one of the dormitory halls.

 

[MossRoad]

My father said they put some kid's car in a hallway at Notre Dame back in the late 30's/early 40's. I believe he said it was the football team.

 

[ArlyA]

Sorry I've not updated this. I have a lengthy report to write and post. The spouse is up there now and goes up every month. He did sell his car.

 

[MossRoad]

Sorry I've not updated this. I have a lengthy report to write and post. The spouse is up there now and goes up every month. He did sell his car.

That's gotta be a relief.

 

[ArlyA]

Little update. Her dads dementia has moved to the less angry phase.

While she was up there moving him to another building and packing up his stuff, she found legal papers from his attorney. She sped read them but couldn't define what they meant and she also found a hand written note for here dad a "to do" list made my Diane, who she didn't know which stated, "remove children from your power of attorney an make Diane" and a few other items like moving back home. She asked her dad about the note and he said something to the effect "I'm not working with her anymore".

After getting home she made a phone appointment with the attorney who said "he's been calling here much and keeping my staff from there normal work, so we made him some papers to go through that meant nothing." plus "when he is around town, he will tell anyone who will listen that his kids moved him from his home, stealing his $$ and won't let him move back to his house etc, etc".

All this had put an exorbitant amount of stress on my poor spouse but of course, it is or was her dad's reality at the time.

 

[ultrarunner]

Visiting friends in similar situations very often the person will say take me home, get me out of here and break off communication with kids blaming them for not being able to stay in their home.

Mom wanted to stay in her home so I became the hero…

The family members that said she should be in a facility she remembered to the end…

One thing that surprised the heck out of me is about 10 days before mom passed she had about 30 minutes of perfect focused clarity… her friend was also there and we both looked at each other in disbelief because it was so well reasoned and spoken.

She said she wouldn’t be around too much longer, thanked us for everything and most of all for returning home… she read her medical reports and her 50 years of RN training kicked in… her final words were not making it to Christmas and making sure all the grandkids were remembered… I asked for detail and she said can I afford to give each a thousand dollars and I said I will make sure it happens and she was happy.

 

[kenmbz]

My father is still in his house, still in his bed, almost the end.
Brother is out there now, he is on hospice care.
Will need to head out soon :-(

 

[alexpops]

It may have been Caltech, as they described a roughly similar scenario in the article I had posted above... namely a Model T in the basement of one of the dormitory halls.

I worked at CalTech in the early-mid 80's. Very interesting place & definitely brilliant students. During exams they used to concoct their own amphetamines to stay awake & cram for the week. I watched a bunch of the PhD students analyzing a molecule diagram of one of their compounds & while I didn't understand a thing they were talking about, I gathered enough to understand that depending on where a carbon atom showed up in the molecule they could design in or out hallucinations/"wired" effects & how long before the crash.

They have a thing there called Senior ditch day, where all the seniors have to leave campus for 24 hours. One year when this happened, (85 or 86) the underclassmen dismantled & reassembled a senior's Porsche on the dorm roof overnight & left it up there running for everyone to see in the morning. The school paper had pictures of the crane operator & physical plant manager on the roof trying to figure out how to remove it without damaging the car. They were also pretty famous at that time for doing pranks like burying student made explosives on football fields for detonation when no one was near them during games. I think they did it at a Rosebowl game around that time, even though Caltech wasn't playing. One of the "best colleges" guides described the underclassmen as brilliant but lacking in all social skills & had a blurb about the "air" of the student body due to lack of regular bathing. The idiot PR person actually responded by claiming that Caltech's student body smelled no worse than any other college's. She didn't stay long after that.

 

[ArlyA]

I worked at CalTech in the early-mid 80's. Very interesting place & definitely brilliant students. During exams they used to concoct their own amphetamines to stay awake & cram for the week. I watched a bunch of the PhD students analyzing a molecule diagram of one of their compounds & while I didn't understand a thing they were talking about, I gathered enough to understand that depending on where a carbon atom showed up in the molecule they could design in or out hallucinations/"wired" effects & how long before the crash.

They have a thing there called Senior ditch day, where all the seniors have to leave campus for 24 hours. One year when this happened, (85 or 86) the underclassmen dismantled & reassembled a senior's Porsche on the dorm roof overnight & left it up there running for everyone to see in the morning. The school paper had pictures of the crane operator & physical plant manager on the roof trying to figure out how to remove it without damaging the car. They were also pretty famous at that time for doing pranks like burying student made explosives on football fields for detonation when no one was near them during games. I think they did it at a Rosebowl game around that time, even though Caltech wasn't playing. One of the "best colleges" guides described the underclassmen as brilliant but lacking in all social skills & had a blurb about the "air" of the student body due to lack of regular bathing. The idiot PR person actually responded by claiming that Caltech's student body smelled no worse than any other college's. She didn't stay long after that.

You guys need to start a new thread.

 

[alexpops]

I apologize. I was responding & only after hitting send did I realize it wasn't the joke thread.