Why does the wife always...?

[mike69440]

My favorite line concerning this is "My hands are an extension of your mouth."

I just sent this thread to my wife.

She wanted to just order one ($$$$) of the stapled together (cardboard) gazebos and have it delivered and set up, Sure.

http://www.tractorbynet.com/forums/projects/374740-my-wife-wants-gazebo-help.html

 

[kthompson]

I realize there are many here older than I am at 64 but it gives me great joy as I look back at what I have been blessed to do over the years with my wife and some by myself. I enjoy at the end of long hard Saturday getting my weekly bath and maybe a cup of coffee or diet pepsi just sitting and thinking of how much I enjoyed the work and felt blessed to have the ability and mind to do such. It is a shame today our young people have no idea that feeling and sadly never will. One reason I like a farm is the training opportunity it gives to my children and my grands. If you have never heard Mr Paul Harvey story of God Made A Farmer you need to. So God Made a "Farmer", by Paul Harvey - YouTube

 

[LS Tractor Owner]

I realize there are many here older than I am at 64 but it gives me great joy as I look back at what I have been blessed to do over the years with my wife and some by myself. I enjoy at the end of long hard Saturday getting my weekly bath and maybe a cup of coffee or diet pepsi just sitting and thinking of how much I enjoyed the work and felt blessed to have the ability and mind to do such. It is a shame today our young people have no idea that feeling and sadly never will. One reason I like a farm is the training opportunity it gives to my children and my grands. If you have never heard Mr Paul Harvey story of God Made A Farmer you need to. So God Made a "Farmer", by Paul Harvey - YouTube

You have that right! I'm only 56, but still run circles around my two grown 30ish sons. I really run a marathon compared to the grand kids (teens). I can fix, make or maintain just about anything. They have no desire to learn how to do this or that, " why don't you just call someone?" They ask. I can't figure out how to teach them the feeling of a hard days work and the satisfaction that goes along with it.
On the subject of this thread, I am blessed ten-fold.... No make that a hundred-fold for the misses of now 34 years. She has severe osteoarthritis, 4 crushed discs due to degenerative disc disease, and severe arthritis. It is torment for me to watch her get out of bed in the morning or try to get dressed, make the bed, vacuum, or prepare meals. She will not allow anyone to " do MY jobs". Even with all the issues she has, she still comes out to help with anything I'm doing. Right now we are building a new garage/barn/shop. She is out there helping to carry lumber, finish concrete, and be an all around gopher. When God made women, this one came from the original mold! We finalized the plans and we'll be starting to build our final "retirement" home soon ( and I mean WE will be building with our own hands, together). First thing she said was "we need to get a TLB"..... WHAT A WOMAN!!

 

[dragoneggs]

I enjoy at the end of long hard Saturday getting my weekly bath and maybe a cup of coffee

I'm a bit surprised she still tolerates you only bathing weekly! Does she use a hose?

 

[GAFarmer2]

I realize there are many here older than I am at 64 but it gives me great joy as I look back at what I have been blessed to do over the years with my wife and some by myself. I enjoy at the end of long hard Saturday getting my weekly bath and maybe a cup of coffee or diet pepsi just sitting and thinking of how much I enjoyed the work and felt blessed to have the ability and mind to do such. It is a shame today our young people have no idea that feeling and sadly never will. One reason I like a farm is the training opportunity it gives to my children and my grands. If you have never heard Mr Paul Harvey story of God Made A Farmer you need to. So God Made a "Farmer", by Paul Harvey - YouTube

There are still a few of us around..trying beyond trying to keep the "old ways" alive. It is a hard row, though, when my health insurance at 26 years young is almost $300 a month, my vehicle Insurance continues to rise, and my wife is struggling to finish school without bankrupting us.

My wife and I have been married for almost a year (been together for almost 9). It stinks to know that trying to keep this 90 acres of family land floating while working full time, while caring for my mother (she lives on the 90 acres with us, my Dad/her husband passed last year) and my wife (who has been dealing with one of those "we don't know what it is diseases/disorders)...it sometimes just seems like too much to bear.

I would be well ahead to sell out and move on. The 25 tillable acres here are rented out now since dad and I stopped farming in 2012. The rest is in pine stands and mixed hardwoods...which makes great deer habitat but little money.

I love working on stuff. I love keeping the old ways alive. My wife and I do love doing projects together...but it is becoming untenable. 2 weeks ago, she got stung by a bug (we don't know what) that wound up costing us almost $300 in doctor bills alone (allergic reaction that we have no idea of a cause or cure) while trying to help me pull careless weeds from a peanut field. She has an ultrasound scheduled next week, trying to diagnose what else is going on with her, which will likely cost us close to a thousand dollars (based upon the other three she's had in the past two years).

I would love to do more projects...to spend more time together...but the modern world doesn't seem to allow for us to do that. I work a farm job full time (manage a bagging operation that sells custom farm to consumer wildlife feed), along with trying to keep this place up and going. 100+ hours a week and I am further behind than when I started...but that's how it goes.

I'm not complaining. I'm proud of what we've accomplished. I just don't know where it's going to get us.

 

[LS Tractor Owner]

There are still a few of us around..trying beyond trying to keep the "old ways" alive. It is a hard row, though, when my health insurance at 26 years young is almost $300 a month, my vehicle Insurance continues to rise, and my wife is struggling to finish school without bankrupting us.

My wife and I have been married for almost a year (been together for almost 9). It stinks to know that trying to keep this 90 acres of family land floating while working full time, while caring for my mother (she lives on the 90 acres with us, my Dad/her husband passed last year) and my wife (who has been dealing with one of those "we don't know what it is diseases/disorders)...it sometimes just seems like too much to bear.

I would be well ahead to sell out and move on. The 25 tillable acres here are rented out now since dad and I stopped farming in 2012. The rest is in pine stands and mixed hardwoods...which makes great deer habitat but little money.

I love working on stuff. I love keeping the old ways alive. My wife and I do love doing projects together...but it is becoming untenable. 2 weeks ago, she got stung by a bug (we don't know what) that wound up costing us almost $300 in doctor bills alone (allergic reaction that we have no idea of a cause or cure) while trying to help me pull careless weeds from a peanut field. She has an ultrasound scheduled next week, trying to diagnose what else is going on with her, which will likely cost us close to a thousand dollars (based upon the other three she's had in the past two years).

I would love to do more projects...to spend more time together...but the modern world doesn't seem to allow for us to do that. I work a farm job full time (manage a bagging operation that sells custom farm to consumer wildlife feed), along with trying to keep this place up and going. 100+ hours a week and I am further behind than when I started...but that's how it goes.

I'm not complaining. I'm proud of what we've accomplished. I just don't know where it's going to get us.

Perseverance will get you somewhere! You sound like me 30 years ago... It doesn't get any easier, you just become accustomed to it. I am not where I dreamed I would be back then... But it doesn't matter. I am here with my wife and we have made it through some pretty hard times together. We have changed our perspective of what is important.. No new cars, no big house, (selling the 3600sf mansion and going to build a 800sf cottage) etc... If you asked me 2 years ago that it would be possible to be almost debt free, I would have said you were crazy! Everything is possible with a little ingenuity and stubbornness. I hope that they figure out what's going on with you wife. Just remember... Never give up, only fall back and reassess.

 

[void777]

When my better half asks to get a project started (her brainstorm) I ask when are you going to finish what it going to cost suddenly she changes her mind ( I'm sitting back and sipping coffee reading the news paper) we I killed that we mouse Along time ago.

 

[TomSeller]

. I enjoy at the end of long hard Saturday getting my weekly bath

whether you need it or not?

 

[GAFarmer2]

Perseverance will get you somewhere! You sound like me 30 years ago... It doesn't get any easier, you just become accustomed to it. I am not where I dreamed I would be back then... But it doesn't matter. I am here with my wife and we have made it through some pretty hard times together. We have changed our perspective of what is important.. No new cars, no big house, (selling the 3600sf mansion and going to build a 800sf cottage) etc... If you asked me 2 years ago that it would be possible to be almost debt free, I would have said you were crazy! Everything is possible with a little ingenuity and stubbornness. I hope that they figure out what's going on with you wife. Just remember... Never give up, only fall back and reassess.

Thanks for the advice. It is taken to heart.

I have been downsizing equipment for the past year or so, and am slowly even weaning down my tool collection. I've got one truck up for sale, and I'm working on lowering the insurance rates through building up my non existent credit.

I know it will all work out...some days are just harder than others (as I'm sure you know!).

 

[kthompson]

I'm a bit surprised she still tolerates you only bathing weekly! Does she use a hose?

sleep across the house, down wind

 

[rd_macgregor]

My wife retired in June 2016. Learning from her demonstration of retired life, I intend to put off my retirement for as long as possible (I'll be 70 next March). Of course, this hasn't impeded the inexorable growth of the "honey-do" list at home. A growing herd of horses on a 250 ac property can be a maintenance nightmare! Add special projects on top the routine jobs, and it seems my time at the office is almost the only rest I get! Getting back into the office after a long weekend is like a reprieve from a hard-labor sentence...and I don't even like my job all THAT much.

 

[riptides]

My wife retired in June 2016. Learning from her demonstration of retired life, I intend to put off my retirement for as long as possible (I'll be 70 next March). Of course, this hasn't impeded the inexorable growth of the "honey-do" list at home. A growing herd of horses on a 250 ac property can be a maintenance nightmare! Add special projects on top the routine jobs, and it seems my time at the office is almost the only rest I get! Getting back into the office after a long weekend is like a reprieve from a hard-labor sentence...and I don't even like my job all THAT much.

Been there. I find contract work when the honey do list gets ......unmanageable. LOL. Did I just say that? LOL.

 

[rekees4300]

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[GAFarmer2]

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Truest statement ever made!

 

[raybo777]

Boy , I must be a lucky one , been married 31 years and my wife has never complained about projects etc. I'm more about getting them done before she asks. She' s let me by an excavator before for our 50 ac. Property we had, not even one comment. Latest one was she texted me and asked if I wanted to buy a corvette a girl at her work was selling. Turned it down cause it was a year I wasn't interested in. I usually get her what she would like etc. but she is not high maintenance by any means. Just a down to earth country women. I couldn't be happier. Retiring in a couple years and I don't see a honey do list .

 

[Deere Dude]

My wife's honey do list reads like this;

1 Install outlet.
2 Take garbage to dumps.
3 wash truck.
4 trim a small tree.
5 Build house.
6 Call on insurance.
7 Go to Walmart for pills.
8 Fix leaky faucet.
9 Build garage.
10 Order part for washing machine.

She loves lists but I really got a chuckle out of #5 and 9 on the list as if I could forget those somehow.
Been married for 47 years and anytime I needed help and even when I didn't she was right there by my side from putting forms in for footings to concreting to building walls for our houses to roofing. On top of all that she does all the cooking and cleaning and any other chit job I don't want to do. Her lists are a pain but I will put up with them and poke fun of her for them but I will keep her.

 

[oldpilgrim]

"will it ever end?"

Yes it will as I found out a few months ago when my bride of more than 48 years suddenly and unexpectedly died.
Cherish those moments. I'd give anything to have those problems.

 

[GAFarmer2]

"will it ever end?"

Yes it will as I found out a few months ago when my bride of more than 48 years suddenly and unexpectedly died.
Cherish those moments. I'd give anything to have those problems.

I'm sorry to hear that man. Thoughts and prayers are with you!

 

[Dan Hunter]

Yep, I hate it when my wife says "We" should (or need to) . . . . . .." Never understood why she says "We" instead of "You".

Most accurate observation anywhere on the internet.

 

[kthompson]

"will it ever end?"

Yes it will as I found out a few months ago when my bride of more than 48 years suddenly and unexpectedly died.
Cherish those moments. I'd give anything to have those problems.

My brother is 9 years my senior, two years ago his wife passed. They had been married over 50 years, think they were both 70. I have a great wife but really brought the fact one day the Lord will call one home and the other will most likely be left. I saw how much he missed here, they had a business they worked in together and worked together in their Church and of course at home. It was very hard. It helped me to appreciate the time I was able to spend with my wife and out children even more. It is at best very short.

oldprigrim, I am sorry for your loss but thank you so much for sharing and remind each one of us how valuable and special our wife is. My you find God's grace.