Parents with dementia, how dealing with that has gone.

[ArlyA]

Our "home in the yard" while working here. Everyone remains cordial. I'm have fun with nieces and nephews.

 

[ArlyA]

In-laws have let us to continue the clean out. Good they helped but glad they are gone. To many times we're asked "this is good, someone would want this." While we say, "to many of those FS, it's junk or for only a $1".

 

[Runner]

In-laws have let us to continue the clean out. Good they helped but glad they are gone. To many times we're asked "this is good, someone would want this." While we say, "to many of those FS, it's junk or for only a $1".

I know the feeling. My parents and grandparents went through the depression, so that mentality was drilled into my head. I have to fight the temptation to keep "every little thing", particularly when things aren't meant to be fixed anymore. Still do it to some extent though.

Not knocking my parents or grandparents, keeping stuff and making do is a good fall back position when things are tough, and I may just need some of those tactics the way things are going....

 

[ultrarunner]

^^^ I was pondering this today as we are a throw away society.

An immigrant once told me he knew America to be a rich country going only by what we throw away.

I've scored a nice Honda hydro walk behind mower and several like new Echo string trimmers put out for bulky collection...

Also some good forged shovels and shears, riding mower, patio furniture, etc...

I'm probably the last in the area to do my own yard work so lots of good landscaping tools free for the taking as people get rid of what they no longer use...

 

[ArlyA]

I'm getting rid of things I've not used in 10 years.

 

[ArlyA]

1st few items loaded in trailer. Leaving here over the weekend. Getting tired of this job.

 

[Runner]

It would be SO handy to have a trailer like that!

Hang in there, it will all be a (bad) memory soon...

 

[FPGT72]

I would say that is most if not all old people's worst nightmare, I know it's my dads.

"Old Peoples".....hell anyone over 50 has had this come up in their head.

Told the kid if I have lost my marbles, pack me off to Canada and have someone hit my off switch. I will do anything to not go into one of those "old folks" homes......including suck starting a shotgun. I will not go if I have any say, but I doubt I will have a say.

I visited one a little while back, it was nice, but it was a place to wait to die. Is that how you really want to go out? Horrid, I can't think of anything worse.

 

[FPGT72]

About 20 years ago when my grandmother died a good deal of her stuff was stuff that was really of almost no value and was given away to folks that could use it. Then the good stuff was loaded up and hauled from the Bay Area to Mercer Island in WA state. All the stuff was unloaded and displayed for all to see. My folks got first dibs and claimed anything they really wanted, which wasn't much. Then the grandkids, and the great grandkids, took turns claiming stuff. If someone wanted something that someone else previously claimed then a little trading went on. This worked perfectly, there were no arguments. Now my parents have both died and the same process will occur. I'm sure it will work out very well. My brothers and their wives all loved my parents and they loved us. I love all my brothers and their wives and children. I think they feel the same way about me and my family. I'm sure it is going to be a bittersweet time but we will in the end all walk away happy with each other.
Eric

It is nice to know it is not a total crap show for everyone. My mothers sister was just horrid.

When my grandmother died, my aunts mother my aunt was hauling stuff out of the house, and my grandfather yelled at her saying I STILL LIVE HERE.
She did the same thing when my mother died, I changed the locks on the house as stuff was going missing.

 

[FPGT72]

Personally, I've started the process of getting rid of things and converting them to silver or gold. And I'm only 66. But I know my wife, who I assume will survive me, doesn't know the value of certain things. She isn't in the same world as I am. As, I've been a studious buyer of just, certain things, that did explode in value. So she doesn't know if this watch, or this piece of art, jewelry, gun, or furniture is worth a lot. So I'm turning all that, in to an asset that is indisputable. I can control that till I pass, and not leave all this for some one else to discover and take advantage of her. And I figure it will take seven or so years to sell these things at a fair price.

My wife knows just what it is worth, and what stuff is "junk" and what is "good". In the gunz, I have everything in a database with costs of what I bought, when bought from who bought, a little more detail then the "bound book" that is required for the 03FFL. I also have photos in there and a closed auction price from gunbroker. That should give her an idea on what the gunz are worth. The rest of it, I have one "nice" watch and she bought it for me so she knows its value, she also hates it when I wear it out to work, it is a tool watch this is what it is for.