Proper NPT hydraulic fittings are made of forged steel. Using normal length wrenches for the fitting there is no way you can over tighten. First thing happens is the corners of the wrench flats will round off if using open end or adjustable wrenches. If possible always use 6 point wrenches. Flare nut wrenches in the heavy pattern are great around hoses and tubing. Things that cause your leaks are: not tight enough, wrong lubricant/sealer used, damaged threads. SS or Forged steel on both male and female sides will not stretch unless you use a cheater bar. Over-tightening brass and malleable iron will stretch, cast iron will split, and internal threads in cast iron will strip out.
I very seldom have a leak in anything unless the threads are damaged or mating surfaces damaged or dirty; after many thousands of joints (not weed).
Ron